The Power of Silence: Purposeful Passiveness

The Power of Silence: Purposeful Passiveness

10.12.2016 by Dr Judith Wright

  There’s a great quote from Eastern philosophy: “Silence is the most powerful scream.” We often talk about the importance of expressing ourselves, engaging in conflict and making our presence known—but the purposeful use of silence can also be a powerful tool for getting our message across. When we think about someone who projects a […]

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Dating After Divorce: What are the Rules?

Dating After Divorce: What are the Rules?

09.21.2016 by Dr Judith Wright

  Do you ever get tired of reading the same old dating and relationship advice? Most advice seems geared to the twenty-something crowd or for people who’ve never been in a marriage or long-term relationship. What about the rest of us, with, well, “history”? What about those of us who might be reentering the dating […]

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Emotional Cheating: Is It Really So Bad?

Emotional Cheating: Is It Really So Bad?

08.31.2016 by Dr Bob Wright

  You probably wouldn’t dream of having a physical affair. Sure, maybe your head’s turned now and again when you see a hot guy or gal get on the elevator, but realistically, most of us remain loyal to our spouse. After all, we know the grass isn’t greener on the other side, no matter how […]

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Feeling Alone and Isolated? How to Stop Holding Back & Really Connect

Feeling Alone and Isolated? How to Stop Holding Back & Really Connect

08.16.2016 by Dr Judith Wright

  Do you ever feel like you just aren’t clicking with those around you? Maybe you’re even feeling alone and isolated when you’re with your spouse, your friends or your coworkers. Perhaps you were once close, but you’ve started drifting apart. Or maybe the culture of these relationships seems as foreign to you as if […]

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How To Stop Arguing with Your Spouse: DON’T!

How To Stop Arguing with Your Spouse: DON’T!

07.13.2016 by Dr Judith Wright

  Does this sound like you? My partner/spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend and I fight all the time. I want to know how to stop arguing with my wife. I want to know how to stop fighting with my husband. Are you tired of all the fighting? Do you feel angry at your partner a lot of the time? […]

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Why Doesn’t My Relationship Make Me Happy?

Why Doesn’t My Relationship Make Me Happy?

07.07.2016 by Dr Judith Wright

What makes you happy? Is it your friends? Your spouse? Your work? When asked the question of what truly makes us happy, many of us are left in a perpetual state of reflection. “What do I need to make me happy?” Many people look to their relationship as the answer to happiness. Over and over […]

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Dating A Coworker: Bad Idea, or Good Idea?

Dating A Coworker: Bad Idea, or Good Idea?

07.06.2016 by Dr Bob Wright

  It was the mid-1970s and it was the first time I saw first-hand why so many of us tend to say, “Dating a coworker? BAD IDEA.” I was in an internship, leading a weekly Group Dynamics course. One week we’re rockin’ and rollin’—everyone was having a great time, learning and growing, sharing and challenging […]

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Wanderlust: Too Soon to Travel Together?

Wanderlust: Too Soon to Travel Together?

06.01.2016 by Rachel Zwell

Read this post if you find yourself wondering… Is it too soon to travel together with my partner or significant other? Am I ready to travel with my new boyfriend/girlfriend? We’ve been together a while, should we “test” our relationship by seeing if we travel well together?   Who doesn’t love vacation?! Whether exploring a […]

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Relationship Real Talk: Playing the Waiting Game

Relationship Real Talk: Playing the Waiting Game

05.04.2016 by Rachel Zwell

Read this post if you’re: Waiting for her to call Waiting for him to text you back Waiting to make the next move Waiting to commit or settle down   Are you playing the waiting game in your dating life? Maybe you went out on a few dates with someone and then suddenly *poof!* they […]

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Matchmaker, Matchmaker? Avoiding the Awkward First Date

Matchmaker, Matchmaker? Avoiding the Awkward First Date

04.27.2016 by Rachel Zwell

  At some point in our dating lives, all of us have run into “the great fixup.” Whether your aunt works with a cute single guy or there’s an awesome girl who happens to live in a friend’s building, if you’re on the dating scene you’ve certainly heard, “So, I know this person who I […]

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Going from Dating to Relationship: 3 Life-Changing Concepts for Connecting

Going from Dating to Relationship: 3 Life-Changing Concepts for Connecting

04.13.2016 by Rachel Zwell

Read this post if this sounds like you: I’m interested in going from dating to relationship, but I want to have great dates and find the right person. I want my dating experiences to help me learn more about myself and how to have a healthy relationship. I’d like to learn more about better living […]

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Getting Real: It’s OK to Be Yourself on a First Date

Getting Real: It’s OK to Be Yourself on a First Date

04.06.2016 by Rachel Zwell

Read this post if this sounds like you: First dates are hard! I want to explore the world and meet new people. Sometimes it’s not that easy to “just be yourself.” I want to get more out of my dating life. I want to more real human connections in my life. I want to be […]

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How To Find Love: You Must Discover Yourself First

How To Find Love: You Must Discover Yourself First

03.31.2016 by Rachel Zwell

Do you ever feel like you’re in a dating rut? Maybe you’ve made some resolutions this year to go on three dates a week, update your Match.com profile with better pictures, or stop dating girls you meet at the gym. Hold up. Instead of making resolutions you won’t keep or trying to quantify and bargain […]

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Why Couples Fight About Money Problems

Why Couples Fight About Money Problems

03.23.2016 by Dr Judith Wright

What’s one of the most common couples’ arguments? You guessed it: money problems. We call it “dueling over dollars.” These financial feuds range from, “You’re such a tightwad!” to “What were you thinking? We can’t afford that!” When we mix money and relationships, it can seem hard to get on the same financial page as […]

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How Do You Deal With Conflict in Your Relationship?

How Do You Deal With Conflict in Your Relationship?

03.10.2016 by Dr Bob Wright

We’re all faced with two forms of conflict in life: 1.) Productive and creative conflict, which moves us toward our goals, and 2.) Destructive and unresolvable conflict that builds up without resolution. In our latest book, The Heart of the Fight, we explore how many of us are raised with the notion that conflict is […]

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Happily Never After: Getting “Ogre” Fairytale Romance

Happily Never After: Getting “Ogre” Fairytale Romance

03.03.2016 by Dr Judith Wright

How many of us have these idyllic pictures of romance: frolicking together in the snow, playing on a sandy beach, living happily ever after? Society, movies, books, and even our social media accounts have set us up with expectations that are not only false, but potentially damaging. When the bar is set at “living happily […]

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Love Is Messy: Learn the Secret to Awesome Relationships

Love Is Messy: Learn the Secret to Awesome Relationships

03.02.2016 by Dr Bob Wright

Life is messy. Love is messier. Why? Because life and love are full of conflict. Conflict is the very basis for life as we know it; we are born of struggle and growth. Whether you tend to embrace it or shy away from it, successful, happy relationships require conflict. When we don’t develop our engagement […]

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How to Deal with Passive-Aggressive Actions in Relationships

How to Deal with Passive-Aggressive Actions in Relationships

02.24.2016 by Dr Judith Wright

Everyone is guilty of passive-aggressive actions now and again. How many times have we been mad at our partner and chosen to enact the silent treatment? Or how many times have we done something we just KNOW is going to piss them off (…without being too obvious about it)? Unfortunately, we don’t always take the […]

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Got Intimacy? Here’s How to Get It…

Got Intimacy? Here’s How to Get It…

02.18.2016 by Dr Bob Wright

  Intimacy—it’s an often-misunderstood word. Intimacy doesn’t simply mean closeness or romance or sharing a deep connection. Intimacy is about learning and growing together and fulfilling your potential. Relationships are our womb and our crucible; they form us and help forge us into our best selves. While relationships are nurturing, sometimes growth can also be […]

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Always Fighting? Conflict is Common, But Fight Fair

Always Fighting? Conflict is Common, But Fight Fair

02.16.2016 by Dr Judith Wright

Whenever we hear someone say, “Oh, we never fight,” it always raises a few red flags. If you’re really engaging with another person, there’s going to be conflict! Things are never going to be perfect. Dating and relationships can reveal so many “a-ha!” moments. After all, dating is a great opportunity to learn new things […]

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What Questions Should I Ask on a First Date?

What Questions Should I Ask on a First Date?

01.28.2016 by Rachel Zwell

  Don’t you wish there was a script for first dates? A standard set of screening questions? Have you ever seen the article circulating online detailing 36 questions YOU should ask to “find love”? We’ve all read magazine articles like this before—promising the perfect interaction and happily ever after if we just screen with the […]

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Let’s Make Friendships Mean Something This Year!

Let’s Make Friendships Mean Something This Year!

01.04.2016 by Dr Bob Wright

Remember when you were a kid and your best friend lived right next door? I’ll bet you thought they were just like you—you had the same interests, liked the same toys, and went to the same school… As we get older, our worlds expand, and our interests, values and goals change. We find ourselves less […]

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The Kama Sutra of Conversation

The Kama Sutra of Conversation

12.29.2015 by Dr Bob Wright

The Kama Sutra, the ancient guide on making love and sex, seems far off from the topic of workplace conversation, at least at first mention. You’re probably wondering what on earth one has to do with the other. What is conversation? Conversation is engagement between two people, where desired outcomes are expressed, where people are […]

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Holiday Mayhem: Your Guide to a Great Season

Holiday Mayhem: Your Guide to a Great Season

12.23.2015 by Dr Bob Wright

During the holidays, it’s easy to lose sight of your focus. Family patterns emerge, feelings come up to haunt us from Christmases past, and your New Year’s Eve plans might not go as you hoped. You’re off routine and surrounded by people that stir up your feelings. Maybe you love the holiday season, but feel […]

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Not Great Dates: When the Phone Doesn’t Ring

Not Great Dates: When the Phone Doesn’t Ring

12.16.2015 by Dr Judith Wright

  It can be hard to be honest. Studies show that 100% of people lie on first dates. It can be as simple as saying, “I love curry,” or “I have a really rewarding job,” when the truth is you don’t hate curry (but you’d prefer sushi), and your job is rewarding (…sometimes, but sometimes […]

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The Real Cost of Embarrassing Yourself on the Internet

The Real Cost of Embarrassing Yourself on the Internet

12.10.2015 by Dr Bob Wright

I can’t begin to tell you how horrifying it is when I hear about yet another incident where someone shared something online they’re later embarrassed about. The Internet is one of the most amazing communication methods and cultural advancements we have as a species. Yet, it’s put us in a precarious position. Our privacy isn’t […]

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Why We Need Human Touch

Why We Need Human Touch

12.09.2015 by Dr Bob Wright

  Touch is vital to our wellbeing as humans. From birth, we are hardwired to need and crave the touch of others—so much so that babies will actually die if they aren’t touched. As we grow up and get older, we may be shamed into believing expressing affection is something we shouldn’t do openly. Perhaps […]

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Should I Bring a Date Home for the Holidays?

Should I Bring a Date Home for the Holidays?

12.08.2015 by Dr Judith Wright

Ah the holidays…feelings of joy, goodwill towards others, and what’s this? Dread?! If you’re just in a relationship, dating someone new or single, the holidays can bring up a whole myriad of concerns. “What if I bring Sara to Christmas dinner and my aunt Susan talks about how much she (and the whole family) loved […]

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How to Keep the Playfulness Alive in Your Relationship

How to Keep the Playfulness Alive in Your Relationship

12.03.2015 by Dr Bob Wright

This month, as we focus our theme on play and how to engage with our partners, we’ll be focusing on some of our conflict and engagement advice from our upcoming book, “The Heart of the Fight.” (Follow the link for a free chapter!) This blog post is by Dr. Judith Wright and Dr. Bob Wright. […]

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How to Handle Blind Dates: Honest Tips

How to Handle Blind Dates: Honest Tips

11.20.2015 by Dr Judith Wright

How many of us have been set up? It used to be almost a cliché or a joke—the “blind date from hell” a friend or well-meaning family member coerced us into. Nowadays, the face of dating has changed. We’re connecting through online dating sites and apps, and we’re meeting through coworkers and at networking events, […]

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Addicted to Conflict? Here’s How to Save Your Relationship

Addicted to Conflict? Here’s How to Save Your Relationship

11.19.2015 by Dr Bob Wright

Many of us fear conflict. We take it as a sign our relationship is doomed or damaged, so we avoid it. We hold back from engaging with our partner because we’re afraid of fighting—yet, we end up feeling disconnected when we do. What happens at the other end of the spectrum, though? What happens when […]

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THE One Secret to Successful Online Dating

THE One Secret to Successful Online Dating

11.11.2015 by admin

  There is quite literally an app for everything today—and dating is no exception. There are so many options: Hinge, Tinder, Carrot, Coffee Meets Bagel…the list goes on and on. One thing most of these apps have in common is that they offer us a chance to get a snapshot—a quick rundown on the basic […]

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3 Great Ways to Show Appreciation for Your Partner

3 Great Ways to Show Appreciation for Your Partner

11.06.2015 by Dr Bob Wright

  Amidst the “everyday” of our relationships, we sometimes get too caught up in the whirlwind of life to remember to take time to show appreciation for our partners. Do you show your appreciation for your partner? Have you shown your appreciation lately? In our latest book, The Heart of the Fight: A Couple’s Guide […]

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“But We’re So Different …”

“But We’re So Different …”

10.27.2015 by admin

What happens when you’re way into sports and you start dating a sports hater? Or when you find yourself dating an actor, but you don’t even own a television? Are you a cat person going out with a dog person? While it’s true sometimes opposites attract, how different is too different? Even Miss Piggy and […]

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What To Do About The Relationship “Mehs”

What To Do About The Relationship “Mehs”

10.14.2015 by Dr Judith Wright

Oftentimes relationships decline with a whimper, rather than a bang. Things are going along routinely, but then comes this growing feeling the love might be disappearing…and suddenly you find yourself with a case of the “mehs.” Unfortunately, some of us are strangling our relationship—slowly murdering it a little bit at time. Withdrawal, frustration, disengagement and […]

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“You’re Just Like Your Dad”

“You’re Just Like Your Dad”

09.30.2015 by Dr Bob Wright

    “You’re just like your dad.” How many of us have heard that one before? Or maybe you’ve even directed something similar at your partner in a heated moment? This common accusation comes into play in many discussions, arguments and fights. It tends to be at the root of many relationship contentions….and rightly so. […]

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Literotica: 50 Shades of Grey

Literotica: 50 Shades of Grey

09.25.2015 by admin

Ah…50 Shades of Grey…chick lit, literotica—books we all like to read (okay, maybe not on the train or in public), but we don’t always readily admit it. Jokingly referred to as “literary porn” or “porn for women,” these page-turners might not be classical literature, but they’re entertaining and fun. Taking a deeper look at the […]

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How to Get the Love You Deserve

How to Get the Love You Deserve

09.22.2015 by admin

  We always get the love we deserve. The real question is: Are we doing what we need to do to earn the love we WANT? The word “deserve” brings up feelings of entitlement or inadequacy. We either feel we deserve more love than our partner is giving us or that we’re not deserving of […]

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3 Steps to Determining Whether (or Not) You’re Dating “The One”

3 Steps to Determining Whether (or Not) You’re Dating “The One”

09.18.2015 by Rachel Zwell

  Before I dig into this topic, I’m going to start off by saying that we at Wright simply don’t believe in finding “the one.” Why? Because there are a lot of solid statistics out there that show that people who believe in “the one” or “soulmates” tend to have less happiness in their marriages […]

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How to Date a Busy Person—and How to Date When You’re Busy!

How to Date a Busy Person—and How to Date When You’re Busy!

09.16.2015 by admin

How many of us feel like we just don’t have time to date? There’s barely enough time some days to work, feed ourselves, exercise and shower…let alone form a meaningful connection with another person! Well, it’s time to date smarter. Dating, like any interactive, growth-oriented experience should have a goal in mind, a plan of […]

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How To Reboot Your Dating Life by Telling the Truth

How To Reboot Your Dating Life by Telling the Truth

09.15.2015 by Kate Holmquest

Meeting new people and discovering who they are isn’t all there is to dating; we also get to know ourselves in every relationship—whether it’s one date long or a thousand dates long. Authenticity is one of the hardest things to bring to the table when dating. After all, we’re getting to know perfect strangers, so […]

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Love or Sex…Are You Getting One, or None?

Love or Sex…Are You Getting One, or None?

09.09.2015 by admin

Relationships bring out the best in us. When we truly connect with another person and we work together towards goal-oriented transformation, we can find ourselves truly engaged in a partnership based on reciprocity. Sex can strengthen and solidify that bond. Skin-on-skin, intimate contact touches us at the most primal level. Since early childhood, we have […]

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What To Do When Everyone You Date Sucks

What To Do When Everyone You Date Sucks

09.02.2015 by admin

  “I’ve been on six dates in the last month and all of them sucked. Everyone I date sucks. What should I do?” This is a question we hear quite often. First of all, I’d like to point out that the question itself is a little misleading. Dating can be a lot of things—challenging, exciting, […]

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Is Your Relationship Stuck?

Is Your Relationship Stuck?

08.26.2015 by admin

Feeling like everything is going along fine in your relationship? Maybe you’re feeling comfortable and safe…but are you really just stuck? How does your partner feel? Truth is: If one of you feels stuck, then you’re BOTH stuck. Fortunately, there’s a quick and easy litmus test for determining whether you’re stuck in a stagnant relationship: […]

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3 Self Changes You Might Experience After a Breakup

3 Self Changes You Might Experience After a Breakup

08.19.2015 by admin

Going through a breakup isn’t easy for anyone; even if a split is amicable, the time immediately afterwards can be a whirlwind. Breakups are tough! Strong neural pathways we’ve formed during the relationship that have resulted in expectations like support and nourishing touch from that person must now be reformed and rewired—and that can take […]

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5 Common Relationship Wreckers

5 Common Relationship Wreckers

08.12.2015 by Dr Bob Wright

  Engaging in a fulfilling, meaningful and deeply satisfying relationship with your significant other is easier than you think. So why do so many relationships go south? Lying, relying on the other person for our own happiness, and playing the blame game are just a few reasons. Let’s explore 5 common (and definitely avoidable) relationship […]

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Are you Encouraging Success or Resenting Finances?

Are you Encouraging Success or Resenting Finances?

07.29.2015 by Dr Bob Wright

40% of couples have separate bank accounts and don’t talk about money with each other at all. But money can be a big deal in relationships—especially because it can be uncomfortable to talk about. For some families, money symbolizes power, success, or even being loved. Some spouses resent their partner due to lack of money […]

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How To Strengthen Your Romantic Relationship

How To Strengthen Your Romantic Relationship

07.27.2015 by admin

At the beginning of our relationships, we often experience the honeymoon effect. We’re more likely to be in the present moment, paying conscious attention to our lover, which brings us much more excitement and satisfaction. But as day-to-day reality sets in, the unconscious mind takes over, directed by early, often subconscious programming and unfinished business […]

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Common Relationship Advice You Should Reconsider

Common Relationship Advice You Should Reconsider

07.15.2015 by Dr Bob Wright

  Whether you’re single and mingling, a newly-wed, or reaching a big anniversary milestone, the barrage of relationship advice from everyone can be overwhelming. How do you know what advice to take and which advice to ignore? The truth is that even some of the most common relationship advice clichés may not actually be the […]

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4 Ways To Be Your Partner’s Best Friend

4 Ways To Be Your Partner’s Best Friend

07.08.2015 by admin

Ever wonder why we’re so inspired by the heroes of the stories that recur in our cultures? You know, the ones like the myths or quests we all know—Ulysses in the Odyssey, Luke Skywalker in Star Wars, or Katniss in the Hunger Games. But, they didn’t go on their quests alone. They had allies. Odysseus […]

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Understanding Red Flags in the Dating World

Understanding Red Flags in the Dating World

06.24.2015 by admin

  In the dating world, there are many ups and downs: plenty of fun dates…and plenty of awful ones. But no matter how your dating life is going, as you get to know other people, you get to know yourself. We’d like to tell you there’s a standard set of so-called “red flags” to look […]

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How to Know Which Questions to Ask on a First Date

How to Know Which Questions to Ask on a First Date

06.10.2015 by admin

Going on first dates (whether paired up by mutual friends or an Internet dating site) is bound to be a bit awkward. Hey, meeting anyone for the time can sometimes be a little difficult! Many people wonder what questions they should ask their date to determine if it’s a potential match (…aside from the typical: […]

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7 Real Habits of Happy Couples

7 Real Habits of Happy Couples

06.03.2015 by admin

While there’s no such thing as a perfect couple, some do seem happier than others. Why is it that every single relationship seems so amazing while you feel as though you and your partner are constantly at war? It turns out it has a lot to do with our preconceived notions of what relationships ought […]

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Dating Etiquette: Just What Are Today’s New Rules?

Dating Etiquette: Just What Are Today’s New Rules?

05.28.2015 by admin

  Dating in the modern age isn’t like the courting days of generations past. We’re no longer set up by parents or mutual friends (though that may still occasionally happen). Instead, more and more people are turning to Internet dating sites or apps to meet potential mates. Sure, there are still chance meetings at the […]

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Is Your Self-Esteem Negatively Affecting Your Relationship?

Is Your Self-Esteem Negatively Affecting Your Relationship?

05.20.2015 by admin

The term self-esteem in and of itself is based on you, so your relationships—both romantic and otherwise—are only as good as your own self-esteem. In fact, our relationships are a mirror of our own self-esteem. You can learn a lot about how good you feel about yourself depending on well your relationship is going. However, […]

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How to Tell if You’re Dueling Over Dollars or Un-met Desires

How to Tell if You’re Dueling Over Dollars or Un-met Desires

05.11.2015 by admin

Have you ever had an intense fight about money with your partner? Most likely, there was more to your fight than just money. As humans, we yearn to be seen, heard, and appreciated. When this doesn’t happen, we tend to “mis-want” and mistake a surface issue, such as money, for one that is more complex. […]

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3 Reasons Why Real Relationships are More Intense than Movie Relationships

3 Reasons Why Real Relationships are More Intense than Movie Relationships

04.29.2015 by admin

Movie relationships are nothing like real relationships, yet many people still have romantic fantasies that cloud their realities. It’s impossible for any couple to be happy all the time – every relationship goes through ups and downs. The real test of a strong couple is whether the two of you are able to work through […]

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3 Ways to Take Your Online Relationship Offline

3 Ways to Take Your Online Relationship Offline

04.17.2015 by admin

  Let’s get one thing straight. There’s no such thing as online dating.  Until you’ve actually met the person face to face, you’re only dating an idea. Dating a person you met online is what I like to call, simply, “dating” – but getting there can be frustrating. Maybe it’s happened to you: you have […]

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How To Celebrate Valentine’s Day Like A Hero

How To Celebrate Valentine’s Day Like A Hero

02.11.2015 by admin

  Valentine’s Day is a time of love and romance. But what is romance, really? The dictionary describes romance as: A love affair, especially a brief and intense one Sexual love, especially when the other person or the relationship is idealized A spirit or feeling of adventure, excitement, the potential for heroic achievement Looking at […]

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Ask Bob: Should My Girlfriend & I Move In Together?

Ask Bob: Should My Girlfriend & I Move In Together?

11.03.2014 by admin

Nathan: I’ve been in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for two years, and we are moving in together for the first time. She found the place and already started putting it all together, and I feel like I don’t fit anywhere in the apartment. Are we making the right decision to move in […]

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Ask Bob: What Should I Do If My Man Won’t Pay For Dinner?

Ask Bob: What Should I Do If My Man Won’t Pay For Dinner?

10.28.2014 by admin

Monica: I am angry that my boyfriend doesn’t pay for our meal when we go out to dinner.  I’ve always believed that if I’m out to dinner with a man, then he should offer to pay for the meal, especially because I grew up in a machismo country where the men would always take care […]

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Couples: Why You Shouldn’t Give Each Other the Silent Treatment

Couples: Why You Shouldn’t Give Each Other the Silent Treatment

10.21.2014 by admin

A common issue that many couples battle is giving each other the silent treatment. Ultimately, the silent treatment satisfies neither of you – you’re just letting more and more of these little landmines build up until they come out as explosions, and it’s unproductive and unhealthy for your relationship. Why We Give Each Other the […]

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Couples: 4 Reasons Why Arguing Makes Your Relationship Healthier

Couples: 4 Reasons Why Arguing Makes Your Relationship Healthier

10.14.2014 by admin

When you’re in a romantic relationship, it’s important for you and your partner to make decisions that make you both happy so you can enter the realm of fulfillment. When you are both fulfilled, you will enjoy the relationship more and challenge and engage each other more.  Interestingly, having disagreements is crucial to reaching that […]

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How Your Hurt & Anger Can Bring You Closer – Beyond Couples Coaching

How Your Hurt & Anger Can Bring You Closer – Beyond Couples Coaching

09.11.2014 by Dr Bob Wright

This week on Blog Talk Radio, our topic was How Your Hurt & Anger Can Bring You Closer –Beyond Couples Coaching. We look at one of the best ways of overcoming conflict in relationships – simply talk it out! Fulfilling relationships include conflict – they’re real, they’re raw, they’re fun, they’re roller coasters. There are ups […]

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Get Over Drama: Taking Responsibility for Our Choices

Get Over Drama: Taking Responsibility for Our Choices

08.01.2014 by admin

  I believe there are two primary positions; either life is fragile or robust and resilient. Once we decide which position we want to live through, the implications can reverberate through our lives. This doesn’t mean we don’t do things to protect our lives, to flourish, and help us grow, but what becomes our primary […]

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Relationship Coaching: The Meaning is in the Mess

Relationship Coaching: The Meaning is in the Mess

06.12.2014 by Dr Bob Wright

  Do you remember the 70’s sitcom show, “The Odd Couple?” Felix and Oscar were roommates and diametric opposites. Felix is type A, neat, tidy, organized, and professional. Oscar is messy, unorganized, crass and impulsive. They clash constantly and their squabbles make exciting TV drama. Even if you haven’t seen the show, I’m sure you […]

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Sharing Our Talents: The Qualities of a Leader

Sharing Our Talents: The Qualities of a Leader

06.09.2014 by Dr Bob Wright

  In our Year of Transformation program this week, our assignment is to share our gifts. That’s left a lot of people scratching their heads. “What do you mean by my gifts?” Well, we purposely leave it open because we want you to discover. We want you to eventually see yourself as a gift to others […]

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How To Create A Happy Marriage

How To Create A Happy Marriage

06.05.2014 by Dr Bob Wright

  Creating a happy marriage is no small feat because it involves joining two separate lives together. Your relationship together is a different world from your single world. In figuring out how to live together and work things out, you’re: developing a new culture, choosing how you are going to love how you are going […]

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Identify the Limiting Beliefs in Your Life to Develop More Intimate Relationships

Identify the Limiting Beliefs in Your Life to Develop More Intimate Relationships

05.27.2014 by admin

Families who participate in our program and are working on having the greatest amount of intimacy possible often find that there are certain fallacies in their belief systems that they have to overcome. Each fallacy can be thought of as a limiting belief and those limiting beliefs can keep critical thinking from taking place.  For […]

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Identifying, Understanding Why People Lie

Identifying, Understanding Why People Lie

04.28.2014 by admin

    WHY DO PEOPLE LIE? I was talking to our marketing consultant and she asked me a really important question,” why do people lie?” Well, I could tell you anytime I see myself bull***tting I know it’s because I feel insecure and I haven’t accepted myself and I’m trying to sell myself. If you […]

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A Look at Where Your Leadership is Heading

A Look at Where Your Leadership is Heading

04.24.2014 by admin

I just attended the funeral of my younger cousin, which has me questioning a lot about life, how I am living it, my purpose, my leadership, and… Then I received a lovely acknowledgment from one of our graduate students who has been recognized as a leader and asked to help make a significant cultural shift […]

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Blog Talk Radio: Bringing out the Best – PLAY

Blog Talk Radio: Bringing out the Best – PLAY

03.06.2014 by admin

On today’s episode of Blog Talk Radio, I coached callers on Parenting and we talked about PLAYING while parenting. Visit http://bit.ly/1gSYGpk to listen to today’s episode of Blog Talk Radio: Bringing out the Best in case you missed it. Every month, we invite our extended community to engage in a daily assignment to help us […]

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Parent Young Child Weekend – ENGAGING

Parent Young Child Weekend – ENGAGING

02.24.2014 by admin

I was really sobbing as I worked with the fathers at our Father-Young-Daughter Annual Retreat held with the Mother-Young Son event. One father was talking about his lovely little girl, and the therapy she is in. I get so enraged that family functioning has become the domain of therapists who give kids pills when the […]

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Valentine’s Day is just a day—ENGAGING

02.14.2014 by admin

Valentine’s Day is just a day: Celebrate and Make Meaningful Connections Everyday The month of February is widely known as the month of Romance. And yet, romance is the least important when it comes to building healthy, meaningful relationships. What is a great relationship? A great relationship is one where both people are deeply engaged and […]

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Flowing Emotions of a Mother and her First Born — ENGAGING

Flowing Emotions of a Mother and her First Born — ENGAGING

02.13.2014 by Dr Bob Wright

Engaging with my Mother   Mom held my right wrist as I held her’s and we just looked into each other’s eyes as she alternately cried and smiled, occasionally uttering a semi coherent sentence. We were engaging. She got out an occasional “I love you.” and “Oh wow.” When I gave her the stuffed puppy […]

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Your Relationships killing your Aliveness

01.14.2014 by admin

Aliveness in Relationships Today we are looking at the cost in aliveness when we do not take relationships to the next level.  When we stop fully engaging in our relationships, we put them on life support. Why? Because we are afraid of the aliveness of expressing our next level of truth. I am at the leadership […]

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Understanding Compassion Starts with Understanding Others

Understanding Compassion Starts with Understanding Others

12.13.2013 by admin

  We are well underway in the season of compassion kicked off with Hanukkah and extending to the New Year. Compassion may be one of the most important words in the human lexicon regardless of the language. But It is also a word that is rarely used with its full meaning. At its essence, compassion […]

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How to Date and Be Yourself

How to Date and Be Yourself

11.21.2013 by admin

Transcription: I think it was in The Week, where research said that 100% of dating couples lie to each other at some point. Now the lie might be an exaggeration and remember that there are lies of omission and lies of commission as well. Here’s an interesting thought: if I am looking for someone with […]

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Wanna Fight?

Wanna Fight?

07.25.2013 by admin

                     The best first date I ever had was with my husband Bob. We shared our hopes, dreams, and fears about relationships and about what we wanted to accomplish in our lives. We found out pretty quickly where we differed in our opinions and we argued […]

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How To Get Out Of A Relationship

How To Get Out Of A Relationship

07.11.2013 by admin

Someone was just asking me about when’s the “right time” to leave a relationship, and this mad me laugh because the truth of the matter is most people don’t even get into a relationship. You don’t need to leave a relationship if you’re already in a relationship because if you’re fully in it and it’s […]

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Dr. Bob on Mothers Who Hold Onto Their Children

Dr. Bob on Mothers Who Hold Onto Their Children

06.08.2013 by admin

A woman that I saw yesterday morning is facing a transformational crisis. Her youngest child is going to high school and her eldest child is looking at colleges. She has, historically, dedicated herself to mothering and she’s in a bind because she needs to birth herself.  There are a lot of ways that women sacrifice […]

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Dr. Bob on Couples who Blame & Defend

Dr. Bob on Couples who Blame & Defend

06.07.2013 by admin

  I met with a couple this morning that is stuck in fights. Underneath the blaming and the defending that they do with each other is the fact that they’re each hurt. She grew up in a family where it was really crazy and her family used her vulnerability against her. So she swore she […]

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How Family Systems Affect The Long-Term Well-Being of Children

How Family Systems Affect The Long-Term Well-Being of Children

02.22.2013 by admin

  Dr. Bob responds to a comment from his previous blog: Most Families Don’t Raise Kids Who Massacre Jacqueline said: “Thank you. Validation that feelings exist in everyone is essential. When that simple truth is denied especially in young children, absent a parent who possesses the skills to model appropriate resolution; the risk for discharging […]

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A Heroic Perspective of Romance

A Heroic Perspective of Romance

02.14.2013 by admin

  Valentine’s Day… a time of love and romance. But what is romance, really? The dictionary describes romance as: a)    a love affair, especially a brief and intense one b)   sexual love, especially when the other person or the relationship is idealized c)    a spirit or feeling of adventure, excitement, the potential for heroic […]

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The Ultimate Valentine’s Gift

The Ultimate Valentine’s Gift

02.13.2013 by admin

  Want the ultimate Valentine’s Day gift? It is the gift of you. Fully engaging, authentically stepping into the unknown of spontaneous interaction. Develop your social emotional intelligence and learn to truly nourish each other. Do you want to know how? Attend our Transform! Training for a weekend of intimacy and a lifetime of fulfillment […]

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